Enter a new kind of self-help book for the mind, body, and divorce. Cindy discusses finances, children, attorneys, sex, you name it. The goal is to help people go through an often damaging and painful process taking on as little damage and baggage as possible.


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Do you remember your wedding day? Do you remember your hopes, dreams and your belief that this partner would be yours forever? You each made promises. Promises that are now broken. How do you honor what was in your hearts and intentions that distant day while you are walking the path of separation and divorce? That is the question this book endeavors to answer. MORE



Just So You Know
My heartfelt hope is to change the way divorce is done so that divorced parents can be tolerant, kind and compassionate with one another — for the sake of their children. The ultimate would be that they can hon¬or the love that brought them together and created their family. Another of my hopes is that some day they can be grateful for the lessons they learned in the process and use that new knowledge to reinvent their lives to live a more magnificent life in the future. MORE



In Your Words

WE CAN ALL DO BETTER: a review by Family Law Attorney Christian Lapham

I have practiced only family law for the past thirteen years and have handled literally thousands of divorce cases. Cindy comes to the same conclusion I do, which is that we do divorce incorrectly in nearly every case. It is too expensive, too painful, and too damaging to children. #2 is hard to remedy, but #s 1 and 3 are areas in which we can and should do better, be it the divorcing party, their attorney, and the collateral folks who play a role in the process. In particular, the attorney’s fees problem is a runaway train which appears to be worsening, not improving. Far too many people are willing to spend a dollar on their attorney to save their spouse from collection fifty cents. And far too many attorneys are willing to steer their clients in that direction.

Enter Cindy. As a divorce survivor, she knows the pitfalls because, as she candidly points out, she fell in them. She spent a lot in attorney’s fees (albeit on a great attorney). She was devastated emotionally. Her relationship with her children suffered. What she refused to do, however, is to turn her back on her family and fought to maintain a positive relationship with her “STBE” (you have to read the book) for the betterment of her children. And when she was done with the divorce process, she did a rather unique thing. Rather than turning her back on a difficult chapter in her life, she sought to improve how we handle divorce.

Cindy’s book reads like a self-help book for the mind, body, and divorce. Her points can be raw, but thoughtful. She discusses finances, children, attorneys, sex, you name it, all with the goal of helping people go through this transformative process taking on as little damage and baggage as possible. And if you think the book is helpful, and provides you with hope and some good humor, Cindy in person is the book times three.

Men and women going through this process will find some good tips, hope, and self-discovery in this book. Divorce is a journey. Cindy is right to advise you to take the high road, because the low road is more expensive, and can be never-ending.

An excellent read. - Christian M. Lapham, Esq.